Romantic French Phrases: Flirting, Pet Names and Declarations

🇫🇷 French · 30 cards · A2 · by Théo Marchand

These are the 30 phrases you actually need if you are dating, flirting or writing to someone in French. I ordered them the way a relationship moves: attraction first (tu me plais), then asking someone out, then the pet names, then the big declarations.

Two things trip learners up. Intensity: je t'aime bien is weaker than je t'aime, not stronger, and it is what you say to end things politely. And embrasser means to kiss on the mouth, not to hug — for that you say faire un câlin. Where France and Québec part ways — mon copain versus mon chum — the note tells you which side of the Atlantic you are on.

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1Je t'aime
The real declaration. Don't add an adverb: "je t'aime beaucoup" is weaker, not stronger.
I love you
Je t'aime, tu le sais très bien.
I love you, you know that perfectly well.
2Je t'aime bien
The friend zone in three words: "bien" softens "aimer" instead of reinforcing it.
I like you (as a friend)
Je t'aime bien, mais juste comme ami.
I like you, but only as a friend.
3Tu me plais
Literally "you please me". The normal step before "je t'aime" — clearly romantic, not friendly.
I like you, I'm attracted to you
Tu me plais depuis le premier jour.
I've liked you since day one.
4Je pense à toi
The classic text message. It's "penser à", never "penser de".
I'm thinking of you
Je pense à toi toute la journée.
I think about you all day long.
5Tu me manques
Reversed compared to English: the person who is missed is the subject. "Je te manque ?" = "Do you miss me?"
I miss you
Tu me manques déjà, rentre vite.
I already miss you, come home soon.
6Mon amour
Stays masculine when said to a woman. Used with a partner and also with young children.
my love
Bonne nuit, mon amour, dors bien.
Goodnight, my love, sleep well.
7Mon chéri
"Ma chérie" to a woman. Warm and slightly domestic — very common between couples of all ages.
darling, honey
Viens t'asseoir près de moi, mon chéri.
Come sit next to me, darling.
8Mon cœur
Same form for both genders. In France you'll also hear "ma puce" and "mon chou"; in Québec, "mon amour" dominates.
sweetheart (literally: my heart)
Ça va, mon cœur ? Tu as l'air fatigué.
You okay, sweetheart? You look tired.
9Tu es magnifique
"Magnifique" doesn't change for gender. Usually pronounced "t'es magnifique" — stronger and less cheesy than "tu es belle".
You look stunning
Tu es magnifique dans cette robe.
You look stunning in that dress.
10Tu as de beaux yeux
A famous film line ("T'as de beaux yeux, tu sais"), so the full version sounds knowingly cheesy. Fine if you smile while saying it.
You have beautiful eyes
Tu as de beaux yeux, tu sais.
You have beautiful eyes, you know.
11Ça te dirait d'aller boire un verre ?
The low-pressure way to ask someone out. In Québec you'll more often hear "prendre un verre".
Fancy going for a drink?
Ça te dirait d'aller boire un verre samedi ?
Fancy going for a drink on Saturday?
12Tu veux sortir avec moi ?
"Sortir avec" = to date someone. Among teenagers it means asking someone to be your girlfriend/boyfriend.
Do you want to go out with me?
Dis, tu veux sortir avec moi ce week-end ?
Hey, do you want to go out with me this weekend?
13On sort ensemble
Standard way to say you're a couple. "On est ensemble" works too and sounds a bit more serious.
We're dating, we're together
Ça fait trois mois qu'on sort ensemble.
We've been together for three months.
14Je peux t'embrasser ?
Careful: "embrasser" is a kiss on the mouth, not a hug. For a hug, say "faire un câlin".
Can I kiss you?
Je peux t'embrasser ? J'en ai envie depuis tout à l'heure.
Can I kiss you? I've wanted to for a while now.
15Embrasse-moi
Informal imperative (tu form), used with someone you're already close to.
Kiss me
Embrasse-moi, personne ne nous regarde.
Kiss me, nobody's looking at us.
16Faire un câlin
Softer and cosier than a kiss; also used with kids. In Québec you'll hear "viens te coller".
to cuddle, to hug
Viens me faire un câlin, j'ai froid.
Come give me a cuddle, I'm cold.
17Je te kiffe
France only, very informal and young (from Arabic "kif"). In Québec you'd say something like "je te trouve cute".
I'm really into you
Je te kiffe grave, t'es au courant ?
I'm seriously into you, you know that?
18Je suis amoureux de toi
Women say "amoureuse". Describes the state of being in love; often used just before a first "je t'aime".
I'm in love with you
Je crois que je suis amoureux de toi.
I think I'm in love with you.
19Tomber amoureux de quelqu'un
Takes "être" in the past tense: je suis tombé amoureux / je suis tombée amoureuse.
to fall in love with someone
Elle est tombée amoureuse de son voisin.
She fell in love with her neighbour.
20Le coup de foudre
Literally "a lightning strike". Also: "j'ai eu un coup de foudre pour elle".
love at first sight
Quand je l'ai vue, ça a été le coup de foudre.
When I saw her, it was love at first sight.
21Avoir des papillons dans le ventre
Very common in Québec, increasingly heard in France. Mostly about being in love, sometimes about nervous excitement.
to have butterflies in your stomach
J'ai encore des papillons dans le ventre quand je le vois.
I still get butterflies when I see him.
22Je suis fou de toi
Women say "je suis folle de toi". Passionate and a bit dramatic — meant that way.
I'm crazy about you
Je suis fou de toi depuis des mois.
I've been crazy about you for months.
23Je tiens à toi
Deep affection without saying "je t'aime". Works for a partner and for very close friends.
I care about you
Je tiens à toi, vraiment beaucoup.
I care about you, a whole lot.
24Je me sens bien avec toi
Understated and very French; often the first honest thing said early in a relationship.
I feel good with you
Je me sens bien avec toi, c'est simple.
I feel good with you, it's easy.
25Tu me rends heureux
A woman says "tu me rends heureuse". "Rendre + adjective" = to make someone feel something.
You make me happy
Tu me rends heureux, tout simplement.
You make me happy, quite simply.
26Tu es l'amour de ma vie
Serious register — weddings, anniversaries, long letters. Not a flirting line.
You're the love of my life
Tu es l'amour de ma vie, ne l'oublie jamais.
You're the love of my life, never forget it.
27Je ne peux pas vivre sans toi
Spoken French drops the "ne": "je peux pas vivre sans toi".
I can't live without you
Ne pars pas, je ne peux pas vivre sans toi.
Don't go, I can't live without you.
28Je t'ai dans la peau
Literally "I have you in my skin". Intense, almost obsessive — keep it for real passion.
I've got you under my skin
Qu'est-ce que tu veux, je t'ai dans la peau.
What can I say, I've got you under my skin.
29Mon chum
Québec only; feminine "ma blonde". In France: "mon copain / ma copine", or "mon mec / ma meuf" (informal).
my boyfriend, my partner (Québec)
Je viens avec mon chum ce soir.
I'm coming with my boyfriend tonight.
30Veux-tu m'épouser ?
In France the inversion makes it solemn — the proposal formula; casually you'd say "tu veux m'épouser ?" or "on se marie ?" In Québec "veux-tu" is just everyday speech.
Will you marry me?
Veux-tu m'épouser ? J'ai la bague dans ma poche.
Will you marry me? I've got the ring in my pocket.
Théo Marchand
Native French · Speaks English, Spanish

Born in Lyon, living in Montréal. I write the phrases the way people actually say them on both sides of the Atlantic and mark the difference when it matters.

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Questions about this deck

What is the difference between "je t'aime" and "je t'aime bien"?
"Je t'aime" is a real declaration of love. Adding "bien" or "beaucoup" weakens it: "je t'aime bien" means "I like you" and is exactly what you say to put someone in the friend zone. So never pad a first "je t'aime" with an adverb — say it bare. For something warm but not committed, use "je tiens à toi" or "tu me plais".
Does "embrasser" mean to hug or to kiss in French?
To kiss, on the mouth. "Je peux t'embrasser ?" asks for a real kiss, not a hug — a common and awkward mistake for English speakers. For a hug or a cuddle, say "faire un câlin" ("viens me faire un câlin"); for a peck on the cheek, "faire un bisou" or "se faire la bise".
How do you say boyfriend and girlfriend in France and in Québec?
In France: "mon copain" and "ma copine", or more casually "mon mec" and "ma meuf". In Québec: "mon chum" and "ma blonde", used by everyone at any age. In Québec "mon copain" can sound like a male friend, and in France "mon chum" simply isn't used. "Mon compagnon / ma compagne" and "mon conjoint / ma conjointe" are the neutral options for a long-term partner.
Which of these phrases can I use early on without sounding too intense?
Safe early phrases: "tu me plais", "je pense à toi", "je me sens bien avec toi", "ça te dirait d'aller boire un verre ?" and "tu es magnifique". Save "je t'aime", "tu es l'amour de ma vie", "je ne peux pas vivre sans toi" and "je t'ai dans la peau" for an established relationship — the last one especially sounds passionate and possessive.

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